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Note from S.C.

 I too have a spouse with PTSD and I look forward to reading your posts. Thank you for giving a voice to so many struggling families <3  -S.C.

A Spouse’s Story PTSD

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Note from J.D.

I can’t begin to thank you for your daily posts! As I said previously, I too suffer from PTSD and for years i didn’t know what was wrong with me. I knew I was depressed, I knew I lost interest in my friends and hobbies, I knew I drank too much to ease the pain, guilt, shame, and loneliness, I knew that what I was dealing with, no one (even my wife) could understand since I was all alone… then I ran across your Facebook page. I faithfully read your posts and it saddens me to learn there are others like me with their lives robbed from them. Then I smile when Craig makes progress, I smile when it was a “good” day for the both of you, I smile knowing that none of you have given up. It’s these little things that you and Craig have given me that makes me hope one day we all will overcome this. I know it’s not likely going to happen soon, but with all the strength and love you and Craig share, it has allowed me to find a deeper relationship with my own wife. The two of you together are changing my life each and every day, giving me strength and hope to never give up like I’ve wanted to do so many times. I know we’ve never met and we probably never will, but I can honestly say I am honored to know of you and your husband. It’s people like the two of you that helps those of us who are “alone” feel your hands in our hearts as we walk side by side in this battle. Thank you both for helping me continue to live. -J.D.

A Spouse’s Story PTSD

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Let me tell you a story…A VERY special “group” of people.

As much as we all know that PTSD can affect anyone and is not only military related, I have to touch on the military for a second and you will understand why when you read this. 😉

There is a very special “group” that is dear to my heart. Without them I have no idea where Craig and I would be right now! So let me tell you a story….

There was a day when Craig had a very serious migraine, he couldn’t hear, couldn’t see, rolled around in pain and couldn’t get to his feet. This was during the time that we were still waiting on the VA to get him in the system and I was lost at what to do. I looked up and saw our neighbor walking by and ran out for help. This was an older gentleman, he walked with a cane and was not doing too well, but one that talked to me every day as he passed.

He told me that I could take Craig to the VA’s ER and they would take him in even though we were still waiting for official appointments. That man, who could have said nothing at all, was the man who sent me in the right direction for getting my husband help that day. The ER doc got Craig into the system that day and the road to help started for us.In days to follow, and still to this day, we spent much time at the VA. There were many times I would be sitting in the hallway alone. But, I never sat alone for long. There was always someone that would sit down beside me and start a conversation. The question was always asked, “What is wrong with your husband?” And I would reply not knowing their response, “The docs are saying PTSD.”From there I have heard many stories over the years now. Every person who took the time to sit beside me would ask if I minded them sharing their’s with me. Every time I would reply with I don’t mind at all. And when they finished talking they would tell me thank you. Thank me? I would smile at them and chuckle, no, thank YOU!One gentleman told me, “Young lady you just don’t understand. You listening to me has helped me.” I smiled and said, “But what you don’t realize is you have also helped me.”See, every story that I took the time to listen to worked in a two fold. I helped them by simply listening and talking to them, but they greatly helped me by teaching me what to understand.

Who am I referring to? Our Vietnam Veterans!!!

Every single one of those people I talked to, the neighbor that helped us out so much, all Vietnam Veterans! I know and understand what I do today because they took the time, not only to serve our country, but to help me learn and understand. I listened and took to heart every word they spoke and advise they had to offer. And yes, I THANK them (YOU)! I would not be the person I am today, our family may not have survived this new normal, if you had not taken the time for me! My “elders” as you will hear me refer to them as, ARE my heroes! THANK YOU!!!!! 🙂

~Bec

How children think… :)

This is what my daughter left in the fridge this morning for Craig before she went to school. It had a note on it that said “For Dad”. Now if that doesn’t make you smile, I don’t know what will 😉

~Bec

A Spouse’s Story PTSD

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