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PTSD and Cognitive or Memory Issues

PTSD and Cognitive or Memory Issues

I was asked what it is like with cognitive dysfunction and memory issues being a huge part of our everyday lives. So let me explain…

A prime example was a few days ago, Craig looked at me and asked, “So what project are you working on next?” I sat there for a second and realized what type of day it was going to be, not that that is a bad thing, I don’t view it that way anymore, but it told me what was in front of us. It was one of the more severe cognitive days. To Craig, it was just an honest question because to him he did not know.

See, last week we talked in depth, over multiple days about my next projects. We talked about what I wanted with these projects, what he wanted, threw around different ideas of likes and dislikes, how to move things around, where to put things, etc. I am always working on something, so that part seems to stick in his memory, it’s a part of my daily routine to work a little on something. I am also doing some extra Spring cleaning before starting some projects, as well as have a couple of outside projects I am working on getting to. So we had talked about these.

So, I’ve spent the past week preparing, a little each day. But to Craig, it just did not “stick” in his brain what we had talked about. This is something that has been a part of our lives for years now, we are used to it and know how to manage it.

The cognitive problems can lead to repeating things, not understanding that something has taken place, or something was said, the confusion, frustration and/or anger that comes with it, misplacing things, not recognizing the body’s signs of being hungry or not knowing if he has drank fluids or not… or believing he has when he hasn’t, same with showering, brushing teeth, etc, medications have to be given to him not just taken… for safety reasons, not recalling people’s or pets names… that includes my name as well. There are also many safety protocols we have in place.

Movies, something that is no big deal in reality but, 😉 do you know how many times a person with cognitive issues can watch the same movie and not realize it? Not recall any details of the movie? I believe we are up to 13 times for the same movie, for multiple movies watched at home. How do I respond? I just go with it! I don’t mind re-watching movies anyway.

So, those are just a few of the many things that are a part of daily life for us. The best way I can describe it, is he has to have guidance with many things each day, things that he can’t or does not know to do by himself, things that many people don’t even have to think about to accomplish.

I have actually documented things, to see if there is any rhyme or reason behind different things, because with PTSD‬ as well as depression‬, there can be concentration issues and lack of focus due to anxiety, flashbacks take one away from reality while they are occurring, dissociative episodes are the same way, and other things that some things may be related to other than true cognitive or memory issues. There has still not been any rhyme or reason discovered to why some things stick and other things don’t when it comes to true memory or cognitive issues. Some things or bits and pieces of, flow in and out of memory. Then some things are just not there at all any longer.

These things are a part of both of our everyday lives, but there are days that are worse than others, really just like any other symptoms or medical conditions. There are going to be somewhat better days then there will be the really bad ones.

Don’t worry, I’m not by any means throwing Craig to the wolves here lol! Craig likes for me to write about things we go through, with total honesty. He says it helps him. So, I’m just bringing an understanding about how life is different for us, as well as many others. By the way, Craig approves what I write about and many times will ask me to write about things so he has kind of a record of things to look back on. 😉

(Just to note here for Craig… he uses my writings as a guideline to help with cognitive issues and as reminders. 😉 I am working on re-flooring my son’s bedroom, painting inside, forming a ground level stone area to sit the outside fire pit on… so I don’t have to keep moving it to mow or have to weed-eat it, and re-doing the backdoor stones that have shifted.)

I do want to state up front, I am using the term “cognitive” more than “memory” because doctors are honestly not sure what to call what Craig experiences and cannot answer what term fits best. He has multiple diagnoses along with PTSD… overlapping symptoms, and I have basically been told to back off from using the term “memory” as much, which is what doctors have always used as well, until they are able to sort out exactly what ALL he is and has been going through the past 11 years. “Cognitive dysfunction” is a term that has been used since day one no matter what other terms have been additionally used (“memory loss” and “memory impairment, which long term memory has been affected just as short term memory has been), so for now we will stick to “cognitive dysfunction”, which has been described as dementia like symptoms he experiences.

I have been asked, “How do you handle this as the spouse?” and “What is this like for the two of you?”

I think the simple answer is, I handle these days with extreme patience. Back at the beginning though, patience was not something that was understood as needed. It was the quick comments of, “You already said that“, “I don’t understand why we are discussing this again“, “We already talked about this“, “That never happened” or “Why did you do that?“, “You said you would do… but did not.“, “Why did you go here when you said you were going there to take care of…“, etc. It was pretty frustrating, not only for myself, but for both of us, some situations came across as untruthful when in reality to him he was telling the truth, not recalling things lead to arguments.

I guess the best way to describe days like the other day, which was based around conversations and what I have already accomplished around the house and am working on, is they are like deja vu to me. Like the day is replaying itself, which in a sense it is, to me at least. I know we have already gone through this (whatever it may be based around), or something similar, but outcomes are not always the same. The fact is, this is life, this is what it is, and we go with it and make the best of each day.

I do prompt Craig at times, or give some small amount of information, if the situation is correct for it (in other words, as long as safety is not an issue), it’s a way to try to help him and his brain function, work at recalling things or part of things, and at times can help to a certain point. The brain is like a muscle, and it does take exercise, as well as this also helps spark the neurons in the brain. So the prompting is important to do, but there is a limit if higher levels of frustration and PTSD start stepping forward, so there has to be a healthy balance.

I don’t know if you would call it an advantage or disadvantage really (the repeating things). At times it is easier the second or third time around because I kind of know what’s coming, what his thoughts were last time, or where things lead, especially with conversations, so I know how to respond or better yet, how not to respond. But yet on the other hand lol it’s coming again and I know it will be a day of listening and having the same conversations again, having great patience, and understanding/empathy of what he is going through, and just going along with the repeat of the day, which doesn’t really bother me anymore. It took time for me to understand what he goes through in order to know how to respond or to know what I need to do, how to handle what he experiences. I’ll be honest, at times it’s still frustrating, but it’s something I understand and accept so I can also let go of frustration easily if it comes, so I can help him through the day.

But to Craig he does not comprehend that something has already taken place, to him it’s new. I think the toughest part for him is knowing me so well or seeing how other people react to him. There are times that he picks up on my pause to answer… looking for the right words or me already knowing it’s best to just listen and not reply, my/others facial expressions or lack of at times, me sitting too quiet while I listen again, in general my/other’s body language.

See, just because he has cognitive problems does not mean he is any less intelligent. Sure, he has lost part of what he had learned, some things take longer to accomplish, or he has to look up how to do something now, but he is still intelligent. When he picks up on something it’s now an instant “We already talked about this, haven’t we?” or “That already happened, didn’t it?“. He can many times put those pieces together even though whatever it or the situation is, for lack of better words, is gone. Then at times he gets frustrated, irritated, with himself and tries to recall things. That leads to a lot of negative thoughts towards himself which are not good for him… the “Wow did that make me feel stupid“, “They really looked at me like I am crazy“, etc. He can’t help or control his cognitive function, he tries though. I’ll give him a big “good job” on that one, he always tries with everything.

We have a lot of days where we will sit and just talk, he’s learned to state “I am just really lost today”, express to me how he is feeling which in turn helps me up front know how to help manage the day. There are many times where he will ask me to tell him about a photo, an event, what he did yesterday or what he had for dinner the night before, etc. Or, if I mention something and he has that blank look on his face I will just go ahead, second nature, and tell the story to him or what went on based around whatever my comment or his was if i already see lack of recalling is frustrating him. I learned to read his body language too, so I can tell when there is a “blank space” there and it needs something to fill the gap. We learned to talk and communicate, which has made it more manageable for both of us. I don’t view it as we have settled into a routine, I view it as we always try new things and use what works best.

Craig and I really work as a team. We have had doctors state in writing “His wife IS the other half of his memory” (oops there’s that word). We have had doctors state “He can’t make it without your help.”, which I have been his full time “official” caregiver for over three years now. We have heard all sorts of things, honest statements of facts. But even so, there are many that frown on this, they feel it causes him to rely on me too much. Fact is, they just don’t understand, at least not yet, what his disabilities are like and how we do things, our rules/boundaries we have for each other, and that we do what we have to in order for Craig, as well as we as a family, to be able to function. This view and lack of understanding from others is probably one of our toughest battles, but at the same time we have had this as a part of our lives for so long now, that majority of the time we just let things or comments roll off our backs, so to speak. Negativity from others just can’t be a part of life with battling what we do to step forward each day.

I watched Craig fall into the deepest hole there is when cognitive dysfunction, PTSD, etc. became a part his life. It took time to pull him out of it, and honestly it still pays a huge toll on him daily. But we learned how to manage it together the best possible, basically what he could/can not honestly manage alone. We have those who don’t understand that Craig goes through different things now, that if he is going to spend time with you, without me or someone from our home around that understands how to manage things when they come, there are things you need to know, there are ways of doing/saying or not doing/saying things. There is an overlap in symptoms which does cause life to be managed differently, and that cannot be dismissed.

We have been told in the past that we are co-dependent on each other. There have been ones concerned that it was unhealthy. Which is not the complete truth, which was proven, but we still went through the accusations of what comes with this type of disability being at hand. Not to state this in a negative way, but I can function and manage life on my own, independently… which is healthy for me to be able to do. Craig could/can no longer do that. I’m not saying that to sound mean or like I don’t care, it’s just a fact and what comes with this type of disability. We will never lose hope that things can get better for him, he and we will always try, but on the other hand we are not blind to the facts either, it has been 11 years and a lot of professional help. There is a different type of bond that does form, how could there not be? But co-dependent, as in a negative aspect of the term, no that’s not a fitting term in our case.

But, there is also the humorous sense or side that comes with this type of life and disability. Humor is important and healthy in the right situations. Due to the cognitive issues, Craig does not recall what he likes or does not like… especially foods! 😉 If it is on his plate or I fix something, his brain processes it as “I must like that” and he will eat it. He now eats a lot of healthy foods that he did not like or would have never eaten before! Again, those body signs come into play, he will eat something then recognize the grin on my face, it’s hard to hide the grin. Next thing that comes? “Do I like this or is this a new food you gave me?” My response 😉 “Looks like you like it to me”. 🙂

We did also go through the kids playing on dad’s cognitive issues when they were younger, and mom here had to put a foot down to it. If one of them was in trouble, had something taken away, were told they couldn’t do something, etc. they learned rather quickly that they could wait for mom to be out of sight and ask dad if it was okay to do something, etc. Of course dad would say “Sure”. So, there became a lot of “What did mom say?” over time. Now, with the kids, Craig is still included in everything, decision making, and we talk about things regarding the kids. It’s important even with the cognitive issues that he remain involved, it’s important for him, his self-esteem and self-worth, as well as good for the kids. Now, will he recall any of it later? Normally not but that’s OKAY!

Bottom line is, cognitive dysfunction or memory issues, no matter what the reason for it is, it’s tough. There are a lot of things that come with it. I will tell you that, and Craig will tell you that, it’s just a fact. But, there are so many things and ways of learning how to live with it, learning how to manage things differently, and continuing to live and work towards positive things. I still love Craig the same, I still view him the same ways as I did before his disabilities. You never lose hope, you never stop trying, and you remember to still live. Life is just simply different than what others view as normal or what life used to be like for us. And hey, some things you get a second chance to try again. 😉

~Bec
A Spouse’s Story PTSD : Facebook page

PTSD and it’s relation to Dementia.

PTSD and it’s relation to Dementia. 
How do we handle this if it comes?

Yesterday I was asked an extremely important question based around one with PTSD that now also has been diagnosed with early onset of dementia. This is a subject that studies have been taking place on over the years and it has been found in a study of Veterans, those with PTSD are “two-fold” as likely to develop dementia “later in life” over those in the study without PTSD. For those that like to read research, I will add the link to the study at the end of this.

There are many different factors related to #PTSD that can cause cognitive issues, whether dementia may be or has been diagnosed or not. Some with PTSD “MAY” actually have smaller hippocampus volumes of the brain which is related to PTSD and can cause short-term memory difficulties, anxiety can effect focus and cognition, chronic stress also effects memory and learning. Other conditions which can also contribute to it may be depressive disorder, TBI (Traumatic Brain Injury), or other PTSD co-occurring conditions, as some examples. Even though studies have been done on aging Veterans, we are also seeing cognitive issues/dysfunction in our PTSD community among different age groups, military or civilian. Craig being one that is among the many.

So that is a very basic and short example of things regarding cognition, which may lead to dementia. It has not to my knowledge been found that PTSD causes dementia. From what I have personally researched so far, PTSD may simply bring a higher risk of dementia developing.

So what do we do if these symptoms, cognitive conditions or dysfunction, are present or dementia has actually been diagnosed?

Yesterday I was asked the following… 

“Thank you for your kind words.. life has been tough. We just found out a new bump in our road. Early onset dementia.. his mind is going. I am so angry, sad, hurt and so many other emotions that I can’t name them.. he is so lost and hopeless. He has now sunk into depression. How do you deal with these new feelings? And this new diagnoses.” -Anonymous

The best way I know how to answer this, is by sharing a little of what Craig and I went through when we were told he has/was diagnosed with, cognitive dysfunction and “memory disturbance history considered permanent”. Which actually came before we were told he has PTSD.

Craig and I went through all of the emotions and feelings as the one who asked the question and her partner are going through right now. It was hard! Having to face that life just changed drastically, that all of the things in life and things you have experienced together are in reality fading away from memory, and everything else that comes with.

I will never forget the day one of Craig’s doctors sat down with me to talk. He told me the only way to address the conversation was with directness and honesty. I was told that with Craig’s cognitive dysfunction, there may be a day come that he no longer knows who I am. There was no way of knowing if his memory and cognitive function would continue to worsen over time or if maybe something would come along to help him. Well, it’s been 10 years and in reality, it has continued to get worse as he ages. Just a fact we have faced but we never stop trying new things that may help or at least to manage life with what is at hand.

I went through all of the emotions. I was hurt, I was sad, I felt a loss, and I got angry. I processed and went through every emotion I think there is. Then I realized I just had to face the facts that life was changing for us, and I had to accept that fact.

I think the largest thing that helped me personally, as the spouse, was changing the way I viewed what was happening. I decided instead of allowing all of those negative and “what if” emotions weigh me down and cause me to worry, I was going to set out to make sure that every day that comes, I will cherish with Craig. I will make the best of them. And we will find a way to manage this life. That’s exactly what we have done.

It’s hard watching the person you love fade away, in a sense. I know even though Craig has not at this point been diagnosed with dementia, we still go through a lot that is similar to dementia. His symptoms have been compared to Alzheimer’s. He has okay days and he has really bad ones. And at this point we never know what he will recall and what he will not, there is no rhyme or reason to it.

There are days that he does not remember my name. That’s where that cute nickname “babe” came from that we both use. When he does not recall my name, he calls me babe. I found that it eases him in a way when I use it for him to. He gets names mixed up of family members, I learned to just go with it, I can normally figure out who he is talking about. Even the dogs have nicknames, many of them, the names just do not stick with Craig all of the time. I will say it is amazing the dogs have learned all the different names and will respond to him.

Craig does not relate being hungry to needing to eat. That’s part of my caregiver role to make sure he does, or he will not eat. Another thing that is effected with this, say for example he has cereal. No big deal right? Wrong. If the box is left with him where he sees it, he will keep having bowl after bowl if it is not monitored, until the box is empty. There is not recognition of what he has or has not eaten, so he will continue to eat. That has to be monitored because it can lead to other health issues if he overeats.

Making decisions is something that he has huge issues with, even if given choices he has a difficult time answering or choosing. His brain does not recall things he likes or does not like, which in reality this one we can laugh at because you would be amazed at the foods he will eat now that he hated before. At times both of us making light of the subject actually helps. We do not let it weigh us down, we find ways to work around things.

Safety protocol is huge for us. He has been known to wander, leave things turned on such as grill or stove, leave the refrigerator door open, all sorts of things that one may not think about happening. So we came up with things and ways of doing things to make sure safety is always at hand.

For example, the back yard is fenced in and locks stay locked on all gates. That still allows him to go outside without feeling like he is always with someone or being treated like a child. Even though I will fess, I check on him or look out the windows when he’s out there by himself. One of the largest things when cognitive issues start, is figuring out things that will work and at the same time not take one’s self-esteem away. And if they can do something, let them!

I was told if we started from day one working on finding ways around things, of sorts, finding what works for us, as well as exercising his brain, then if the day comes where his memory does fade to an extreme level, those things will already be in place and there is a chance due to routine he will still follow them or some of them.

Then there is me, facing the fact that one day he may not know who I am any longer, he may not remember our life we have shared together. That is hard for anyone to swallow! I was told the best thing we could do, is work together and make sure no matter what PTSD, depression, and his cognitive dysfunction brings, even if he loses all memory eventually, that bond will be hardwired. Forming trust and a bond now is crucial!

That really stuck with me. Who knows what the future will hold for us, or anyone. Especially when having PTSD may increase the chances of dementia developing in the future, at whatever age. But with having the big picture view of what may in reality happen, it really makes it easier handle things each day. I think being told about cognitive dysfunction before PTSD actually in a weird way helped. Seeing the big picture of what may come, knowing what we have to work on just in case, makes us not sweat the small stuff that PTSD brings.

I was told to view it this way. Will it, whatever it is at that moment, matter in 5 years or 10 years? If the answer is no, then don’t sweat it, figure out how to work through it or let go of it. When the big picture may be in the future the memories are gone for him, a difference of opinion, a day of frustration or anger, a day of working through flashbacks, or a night of no sleep due to nightmares, they are just things we work through and don’t sweat them. They are just another part of what life holds and may in reality be the small things when looking at a lifelong picture.

Another thing that I do, for us. You see those photos at the top of the page? Our kissing photos that I get teased about lol. Those not only hold memories, they also show love and give a sense of trust. Those things are important now, and may be really important in the future. Especially if memories and knowing who people are fades away if dementia develops. Photos tell a story about your life, and they are very important. Craig already has memory issues and cognitive dysfunction, photos, and even being able to sit down and look at photos together, and me tell him the stories to the ones he does not remember already, well, it helps.

I know facing a new diagnosis, especially one like dementia is hard! It’s hard for the spouse, and it’s also very hard for the person with the symptoms. Depression can become very real. You have to take one day at a time, work together, strengthen that bond you have with each other, find the positive things in each day, and do not sweat the small stuff. All of that can help form a more manageable future.

I will believe, and choose to believe what the doctors have told us. Even if the day comes where Craig does not know who I am, or everything fades away for him, the bond we have worked together to form, will still be there. You just have to make the most of each day, right now.

I really do not worry about the future any longer, what we need to do is always a focus. But today is also our focus.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Risk of Dementia among U.S. Veterans

~Bec
A Spouse’s Story PTSD : FaceBook

I was asked what it is like with cognitive dysfunction being a huge part of our lives…

I was asked what it is like with cognitive dysfunction being a huge part of our lives. So let me explain…

A prime example was yesterday. Craig looked at me yesterday and asked, “So what project are you working on next?” I sat there for a second and realized what type of day it was going to be, not that that is a bad thing but it told me what was in front of us. It was one of the more severe cognitive days. To Craig, it was just an honest question.

See, last week we talked in depth, over multiple days about my next project. We talked about what I wanted with this project, what he wanted, threw around different ideas of likes and dislikes, how to move things around, where to put things, etc. It’s a rather easy project, it’s come time to repaint our master bedroom and I want to build my bay window bed for those rough nights when I can’t sleep in bed with him. I am also doing some extra Spring cleaning before starting this project. 

I’ve spent the past week preparing for it, a little each day. But to Craig, it did not “stick”. This is something that has been a part of our lives for years now, we are use to it and know how to manage it. The cognitive problems which lead to repeating things, not understanding that something has taken place, or something was said, the confusion, frustration that comes with it, etc.

Don’t worry, I’m not by any means throwing Craig to the wolves here lol! Craig likes for me to write about things we go through, with total honesty. He says it helps him. So, I’m just bringing an understanding about how life is different for us, as well as many others.

I do want to state up front, I am using the term “cognitive” because right now as of recently, doctors are honestly not sure what to call what Craig experiences and cannot answer what term fits best. He has multiple diagnoses along with PTSD… which they are now looking into an additional one (possible TBI), overlapping symptoms, and I have basically been told to stop using the term “memory” which is what doctors have always used as well, until they are able to sort out exactly what ALL he is and has been going through the past 10 years. “Cognitive dysfunction” is a term that has been used since day one no matter what other terms have been additionally used, so for now we will stick to that. 

Carrying on, These things are a part of both of our everyday lives, but there are days that are worse then others, really just like any other symptoms or medical condition. Yesterday just happened to be one of those days.

I have been asked, “How do you handle this as the spouse?” and “What is this like for the two of you?

I think the simple answer is, I handle these days with extreme patience. Back at the beginning though, patience was not something that was understood as needed. It was the quick comments of, “You already said that“, “I don’t understand why we are discussing this again“, “We already talked about this“, “That never happened” or “Why did you do that?“, “You said you would do… but did not.“, “Why did you go here when you said you were going there to take care of…“, etc. It was pretty frustrating, not only for myself, but for both of us!

I guess the best way to describe days like yesterday, which was based around conversations and what I have already accomplished around the house, is they are like deja vu to me. Like the day is replaying itself, which in a sense it is. I know we have already gone through this (whatever it may be based around), or something similar, but outcomes are not always the same. The fact is, this is life, this is what it is, and we go with it and make the best of each day. I don’t know if you would call it an advantage or disadvantage really (the repeating things). At times it is easier the second or third time around because I kind of know what’s coming, or what his thoughts were last time, especially with conversations so know how to respond or better yet, how not to respond.  But yet on the other hand lol it’s coming again and I know it will be a day of listening and having the same conversations again, having great patience, and understanding/empathy of what he is going through, which is understandable. It took time for me to understand what he goes through in order to know how to respond or what I needed to do, how to handle what he experiences. I’ll be honest, at times it’s still frustrating, but it’s something I understand and accept so I can also let go of frustration easily if it comes.

But to Craig he does not comprehend that something has already taken place, to him it’s new I guess you could say. I think the toughest part for him is knowing me so well or seeing how other people react to him. There are times that he picks up on my pause to answer… looking for the right words or me already knowing it’s best to not reply, my/others facial expressions or lack of really, me sitting too quiet while I listen again, in general my/other’s body language. See, just because he has cognitive problems does not mean he is any less intelligent. When he picks up on something it’s an instant “We already talked about this, haven’t we?” or “That already happened, didn’t it?“. He can many times put those pieces together. Then he gets frustrated, irritated, with himself and tries to recall things. That leads to a lot of negative thoughts towards himself which are not good for him… the “Wow did that make me feel stupid“, “They really looked at me like I am crazy“, etc. He can’t help or control his cognitive function, he tries though. I’ll give him a big “good job” on that one, he always tries with everything.

We have a lot of days where we will sit and just talk. Where he will ask me to tell him about a photo, an event, etc. or if I mention something and he has that blank look on his face I will just go ahead, second nature, and tell the story to him or what went on based around whatever my comment or his was. I learned to read his body language too, so I can tell when there is a blank space there and it needs something to fill the gap. We learned to talk and communicate, which has made it more manageable for both of us. I don’t view it as we have settled into a routine, I view it as we always try new things and use what works best.

Craig and I really work as a team. We have had doctors state in writing “His wife IS the other half of his memory” (oops there’s that word). We have had doctors state “He can’t make it without your help.”. We have heard all sorts of things, honest statements of facts. But even so, there are many that frown on this, they feel it causes him to rely on me too much. Fact is, they just don’t understand, at least not yet, how we do things, our rules we have for each other, and that we do what we have to in order for Craig, as well as we as a family, to function. This view and lack of understanding from others is probably one of our toughest battles.

I watched Craig fall into the deepest hole there is when cognitive dysfunction, PTSD, etc. became a part his life. It took time to pull him out of it, and honestly it still pays a huge toll on him daily. But we learned how to manage it together, basically what he could/can not honestly manage alone. We have ones that don’t understand that Craig goes through different things now, that if he is going to spend time with you without me or someone from our home around that understands how to manage things when they come, there are things you need to know, there are ways of doing or not doing things… unless you want to trigger him, which trust me no one wants. There is an overlap in symptoms which does cause life to be handled differently at times, and those things cannot be dismissed.

We have been told in the past that we are co-dependent on each other. There have been ones concerned that it was unhealthy. Which is not the complete truth, which was proven, but we still went through the accusations of what comes with this type of disability being at hand. I can function and manage life on my own, independently. Craig could/can no longer do that. I’m not saying that to sound mean or like I don’t care, it’s just a fact and what comes with this type of disability. We will never lose hope that things can get better for him, he and we will always try, but on the other hand we are not blind to the facts either, it has been 10 years. There is a different type of bond that does form, how could there not be? But co-dependent, no that’s not a fitting term in our case.

Bottom line is, cognitive dysfunction, no matter what the reason for it is, it’s tough. There are a lot of things that come with it. I will tell you that and Craig will tell you that, it’s just a fact. But, there are so many things and ways of learning how to live with it, learning how to manage things differently, and continuing to live and work towards positive things. I still love Craig the same, I still view him the same ways as I did before his disabilities. You never lose hope, you never stop trying, and you remember to still live. Life is just simply different then what others view as normal or what life use to be like for us.

~Bec
A Spouse’s Story PTSD